To the men who say we are not dating

The funny thing about this is that you are always the ones who bring it up. I never would, because it is so clearly true. We are not dating. This was not on my radar at all.

But when you say something that is so self-evident, then you must mean something by this. It means you were thinking about dating, and then convinced yourself that for one reason or another, this is not going to work out.

It means that there are some responsibilities or obligations you feel towards me, and feel you have failed, and so want to dismiss any expectation I may have that this was something you actually have a responsibility to do.

That’s it. That’s all there is to that.